Oct 1: List of things to write about.
Inktober table of contents. Ik about the prompts but it's not for me. This is just a list i've procrastinated for too long about and I'm going to write about.
Okay, so I do think I have a lot of things to write about or I think about and procrastinate. I’m just going to use day 1 as a way to make a table of contents and as I write them, these will turn into links. I think this hack is a brilliant idea. It’s 11:40 pm when I started this draft. I’ll mostly add more topics to this. But here goes v0.
Home. I’ve grown away from home in boarding schools and hostels since 5th grade. Home is a concept that’s evaded me a too long. In the last 2 years, I’ve found some things. I recently thought that even hostels in college is sort of like a home. But I’ve wanted to write about this for a while.
Money. My dad is an accountant, my mom does a govt job. They started from the lower middle class and went all the way to the upper middle class. I’m a single child and I was always provided anything I asked. But given my parents cared about money so much I’ve had a very complex relationship with money. I never counted ever. I spend on expensive things even when I’m out of jobs. I think I got a clear idea of what is value for money but I do spend like an idiot sometimes. But the last 3 years have taught me a lot about it and I’d like to talk about it. Most times I talk to acquaintances and say bro so fun that you’re doing what you want. But when your monthly average balance has been 30-60k, while you could make 1.5L min in a job makes you rethink a lot. I’ll try to talk about this sensibly. Yes. I have no responsibilities. But I’ll 27 soon and I’d like to grow up ig.
New and old friends. I’ve always had great people around. I went from super social to I get anxiety in groups bw ‘21 and ‘23. I’ve found my balance now. This might just be a bunch of observations and a lot of gratitude kinda article. And also how it has been hard to keep some alive. I’ll maybe even write about dead friendships. In the cities you live in, you need people around. I’ve cut whole groups out and built new friends. I even redid the whole reset with better boundaries and comms, even with old friends. A lot changes over time and you become a different person and please treat yourself well and don’t put yourself in places that aren’t the best for you. There are lakhs of other people in the world. Like literally. I get the extrovert introvert thing. But it is worth putting yourself out of your comfort zone to find your people. I agree it could not all go well.
Social apps. I think this substack was started to write about them. I shall try to make progress there. I got like 21 headers with no body drafts lol.
Weekly or 10-day updates on work and other things. When all we do 70% of our time is work, we hardly talk about it. I find that very odd. I do think in the circles i’ve been everyone thinks they are smart and want to play devil’s advocate and one-up people. But it sucks. Stop being fucking prescriptive. I used to do these things. Took a while to unlearn and just learn to listen. I’ll write on this. Go make non-engineer friends. Read books.
On health. I wont even tell more. If you dont know yet how important this is, you shall soon.
On vices. Idk if I will make this open but I shall write.
Hobbies and becoming a nerd. The older I go I want to be a nerd. I really haven’t dived very deep into things I like. I made some progress last year but I shall try to make more plans. When you like a whole different thing every week it’s hard. But I do want to do a few rabbit holes.
Books, movies, people I admire, moonshot
On jobs. I’ve hopped way too many. Building a cool fun project here. Will go live in Oct.
On parents and how I wish I had taken more photos with them growing up. They are still around. I do video calls more this year. Almost want to do it alt days. Dad doesn’t look at the camera while talking. I only see his hair. I’ve been trying to get my mom to learn to use the firestick. My god, she does not want to learn. But we making progress.
On being social online
Bringing people together.
On travel. Growing up in Ooty. I just wanted to say that I grew up there.
Wedding photo essay
A small wish list.
On functional things. Stationery, beds, pointy slippers
Rules and SoPs to communicate. I think I got undiagnosed ADHD (I don’t want to get tested. What if it says I don’t have it?).
Cooking. Patience. Oatmeals
Dating apps because I did pebbl. But not on matching. On everything before you start swiping.
On college a bit.
26 to 27. I was forced to adult and it’s about time but I shall still complain and yap about it. I wanna be a child sometimes. But it does affect your other things. So splitting who you are in different people ig. Is there a cohesive version at all? How do you y’all deal with this? But be a kid. Throw tantrums. Sometimes even be a brat.
Sonder. And a small circle.
Working or wishing to work in something social but never having done anything about it. Someday I say even today.
A lot of things here seem trivial and you probably have it figure. I’m going to write them for my own clarity ig.
That’s all I have for now. I will definitely add more to this list. What if it’s just another list of headings I make and never write. Fun. The sad kind. Tomorrow I’ll have to make a choice to pick on of this. F. But let’s go.
Okie byee.
Love this!